by Niamh Bartley
There is no bond like a father-daughter bond for those who are lucky enough to share one. Our dads are our first loves, theyâ€™re the ones
who have been around from the beginning to protect us, love us, support us and
fight for us when we need it most. When we were in junior infants the teacher
asked, â€˜who is your hero?â€™ and when we got older it became â€˜who inspires you?â€™,
I donâ€™t know about you, but my answer is and always has been â€˜my daddyâ€™ and a
lot of people would have answered the same, even though in juniors I mightâ€™ve
confidently scribbled â€˜Barney the Dinosaurâ€™ to the best of my ability.
Anyone with a father or father-figure like that will
definitely want him to be part of their wedding day if itâ€™s even remotely
possible and there are so many different things he can help with from planning
to being there on the day itself. Everyone knows the role of the father of the
bride on the big day, and there are different traditions in every culture that
incorporate the brideâ€™s dad, the most common being the walk down the aisle.
This is still a huge tradition in a lot of countries and cultures across the
globe. If your father walks you down the aisle it symbolises the strength of
your relationship with each other, as well as the love and support he has for
you and your other half in one of the biggest moments of your life.
Another big part heâ€™ll play in most weddings is making a
speech or toast. Letâ€™s face it, heâ€™ll tell embarrassing stories, make silly
jokes and basically take the mick out of you if heâ€™s an Irish dad, but heâ€™ll
also bring up some wonderful memories you have shared and tell you how he
supports and loves you in this chapter of your life. There almost certainly
will be tears and hugs all round but it might even bring you guys closer when
he says this all out loud in front of all of your guests.
Basically, your dadâ€™s role on your wedding day is a
reflection of what his role has been in your life thus far, heâ€™ll be there to
support you, make sure youâ€™re happy and dry a few tears along the way. Heâ€™ll
make you laugh, make you cry and make you sad that youâ€™re no longer his â€˜little
girlâ€™, but donâ€™t fret about that because to him youâ€™ll always be his baby. Your
wedding day is not just about starting a new chapter with a new man, it is also
a ceremonious way of saying goodbye to the man who has been there for you since
day one. Whether you moved away from him twenty years ago or twenty months ago,
itâ€™s a big deal, so try to make the most of it and include him as much as you
can on this momentous occasion.